Any social psychology expert would tell you that people behave differently in the presence of others.And the deviance from the real 'self' depends upon the level of closeness with the audience.The self, as per sociologist G.H.Mead, has two components namely 'I' & 'Me'. The former represents the incalculable,unpredictable and innovative component and the later is the coercive culmination of value premises imposed by the society. So, the former is the real self.
Mostly, all people are governed by the dominating 'Me' component. And even though we might be having a huge list of criticisms for say a person, we tend to behave normally before that person. We even try to please that person and don't let the grudges to surface in the conversation. But we find ourselves opening up quite frankly to a third person. We like to bitch about others behind their backs to this third person.
But when this third person sees you change colors like a chameleon in front of the person whom you have been insulting all the way, what would that third person conceive of you. You just became a spineless, coward and degraded person.This phenomenon is not restricted to just this. Sometime we go on blasting off grandeur in our talks and making propositions to impress others without even digging a little on our capabilities to turn them into realities. And even worse, sometimes we keep on fluctuating our opinions like a damn pendulum which makes it difficult for people to trust your words.
You should respect your words if you want others to respect you. You should be bold enough to express yourself freely to others. You should speak of things only when you are sure of your potential to turn them real. You should be what you are.All the time. A person of few words but with a spine is any day better than a verbose, spineless and coward jackass.
I confess that my past and present would certainly make me a spineless coward. But I am not going to project it to my future.I mean it.
Mostly, all people are governed by the dominating 'Me' component. And even though we might be having a huge list of criticisms for say a person, we tend to behave normally before that person. We even try to please that person and don't let the grudges to surface in the conversation. But we find ourselves opening up quite frankly to a third person. We like to bitch about others behind their backs to this third person.
But when this third person sees you change colors like a chameleon in front of the person whom you have been insulting all the way, what would that third person conceive of you. You just became a spineless, coward and degraded person.This phenomenon is not restricted to just this. Sometime we go on blasting off grandeur in our talks and making propositions to impress others without even digging a little on our capabilities to turn them into realities. And even worse, sometimes we keep on fluctuating our opinions like a damn pendulum which makes it difficult for people to trust your words.
You should respect your words if you want others to respect you. You should be bold enough to express yourself freely to others. You should speak of things only when you are sure of your potential to turn them real. You should be what you are.All the time. A person of few words but with a spine is any day better than a verbose, spineless and coward jackass.
I confess that my past and present would certainly make me a spineless coward. But I am not going to project it to my future.I mean it.
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